Keeping busy in our day to day lives, most of us often overlook this simple word.. Acceptance usually means saying a Yes or committing to do something as promised or agreeing to a certain extent on a debatable topic. But when it comes to relationships, what do you think acceptance could be? A lot of you might say that you have accepted the way your life is or the way you have settled in your life.. it may or may not be the way you wanted it.. but whatever it is.. however it is, you have accepted it the way it has come to you.
I've had a discussion about it with loads of people and most of them confuse it with giving up. Well, here's something that I can add.. There is a very thin line between accepting the way things are and giving up on them. If you say that you have accepted everything in your life, be it socially or physically or mentally, that makes a positive sense.. making internal peace with your own self is the hardest thing to attain.. making peace with the never ending rage inside you and having the faith that it's gonna be al right, with you keeping calm.. takes time albeit, but worth the patience! Result being, you are ready/prepared to take how things come to you and that is where acceptance is enlightening you. Now you'd say giving up is also the same.. making peace and not fighting for what you've always wanted and letting them flow out of your hands.. well, here's the difference.. giving up is a negative term.. it implies losing hope for the thing you've been trying for half of your life.. trying to forget whatever happened and believing that it's not in your destiny.. shutting down that door in your heart which was longing for a ray of hope and moving on with the way things are..
You might be doing some thinking, aren't you? It took a lot of time for me to get what acceptance really is.. and finally living with it.. not just in terms of relationships, but with myself as well. There was a time when each and everything that happened around me or with me always made me crib.. lurk for more.. ignoring the treasures I had and running after stuff which was not in my hands.. not worthy of me as well.. lead me nowhere but brought frustration. It did gave me the strength to Accept things the way they are and make way for myself from that.
But today, whoever I am, where ever I am, whatever am doing.. is the best.. and I'm in a pretty good place right now considering the way things were.. Plus, this is not the end.. There is always a room for improvement. And it always gets better.
Expectations and reality.. two opposite sides of the same coin. Acceptance helps to come into reality with a smile and gives hopes to fulfil your expectations.
How do you take acceptance? Care to share?
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