Thursday, 9 June 2016

Love.. An Untangled Affair


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Sometimes I wonder what is it that makes a person cross the boundaries in the name of love, without even realizing what they're doing? 

Sure they say, all is fair in love and war. It makes a teenager run miles in the sun just to get the glimpse of their beloved, it makes a man come home early to have dinner with his wife, it makes woman spread and shower endless love on her boyfriend by understanding and always ready to make him smile and smile along with him, it makes a woman fight the world for the sake of her man, it makes the man feel happy simply by having his woman by his side forever! 

Amidst all these feelings and emotions, who defines what is right and what is wrong? When people love someone truly, they do things they never thought were capable of doing. Younger ones lies to their parents for their lovers, to buy gifts, to top up their phone recharge, to travel and visit them if at all in long distance, of course this happens when they're not earning. But what about the ones who're earning? Don't they lie for the sake of love? Of course they do! A man truly in love with a girl makes thousands of efforts to spend time with his married girlfriend. And the woman, decides to stay married but couldn't resist the idea of staying in touch with her ex. Is this wrong? Yes, we do term it wrong! 

But whose fault is it? The ex, who just loved and only loved and couldn't marry her then coz he wasn't financially sound? Or the girl who tried her best to stay loyal to her marriage but eventually turns to her old first love coz her husband wouldn't just give in, or the husband, who thought his responsibility was to make good love in the night and give good money in the day to spend. What about romance? What about passion? What about spark? Does marriage kills it all? Is this what the reality check is all about? 

An urge to hear a simple romantic line in the middle of the night from your husband is too much to ask? Expecting a compliment from your wife coz you wore a new shirt isn't too much, but it sure loses it's charm coz the couple stays together and has got past of it all. Had it been the courtship or had he been her boyfriend, wouldn't he say a thousand romantic lines waking up all night? And wouldn't she randomly throw umpteen compliments and pull his leg all the while? But suddenly it becomes a pain, why? 

What is right and what is wrong, who is the one who decides it? People define labels as per their convenience, as per their comfort levels and as per them lying in those labels.

Has love become a mirage of what it used to be?

In a world, where everything is a sham, why not just put yourself out there and accept the love you're getting from whichever source, as long as it makes you happy! 

Not everybody thinks the way this article does, but that's not a problem right? What's your take on love? Or right or wrong? Put it all here and I'd be more than happy to hear them all... 

Cheers

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  1. I don't know what love is but with I do know that our Society with its norms kills it before it can bloom. Therefore it seeps in through the holes what people term as wrong!

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    1. Yes... that too makes sense Nibha... Society plays a pivotal role in doing that.

      Thanks for dropping by and sharing your views :)

      Cheers

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  2. Interesting thoughts. The rights and wrongs are all relative. It's how people think of their definition of what's right and what's not. Yes, lovers do a lot, go above beyond but I think they would continue to do so, if the marry each other. Different people have different ways to express love. If there is no love, then expression becomes fake.

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    1. Very true Parul. It's always relative and convenient. People define them as per their norms and carry it forward. And it's only a state of mind!

      Thanks for dropping by :)

      Cheers

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  3. Accepting love from all sources and returning it seems right, only as long as it doesn't hurt anybody else. Everybody's happiness counts after all, not just your own. And about relationships, in each stage the love remains the same, only the way of expressing it differs.

    Hey it's good to have you back. :)

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    1. That makes a lot of sense Dashy. As long as no one gets hurt it's fine. And yes, the love remains the same, only it's form changes!

      Thank you so much!

      Cheers

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  4. Everything is fair in love and war! If it makes you happy, why not do it (but not at the cost of others in any way)!

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    1. But not at the cost of other's happiness! That can save a great deal of conundrum later!

      Cheers

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  5. Every relationship needs work... It is responsibility of both the partners to keep each other happy... If one fails i don't see a reason why other should keep sacrificing and trying.

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    1. And that is where starts the plight of one getting away from the other. Both the person need to nurture the relationship equally and then only it makes a perfect companionship!

      Cheers

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  6. What you think of love is defined by how old you are.

    Damyanti

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    1. That's such a wise thing to say and learn at the same time. Thanks Damyanti :)

      Cheers

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  7. A relationship is continuous work.. Both parties need to put in equal efforts and beyond the materialistic aspect, only then can is it any different from the other and special too

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    1. Yes. Totally second with your thoughts Naba. No matter how much one person tries, but it is successful because of both of them :)

      Cheers

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  8. Accepting love from whichever source is the right thing to do but it often isn't as easy as that. Relationships are complicated and often criss cross across each other - people are torn by multiple loves. A man might want to love his ex but might also not want to let go of his kids. All isn't always fair in love and war. Honesty, commitment, sympathy and kindness - all of those become equally important at some stage in life.

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    1. Every person has its own way of seeing things. When one is getting all the love in family, be it from the kids or the spouse, one doesn't go astray and look for it outside.. but when that basic need doesn't gets fulfilled at home, all a man can do is receive it from wherever he is getting it.

      Sure, he should take things in hands and make things work, but if that doesn't help, people do manage to find other ways of love!
      Thanks for sharing your thoughts Tulika :)

      Cheers

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  9. By far the best blog on relationship!! Thank you for writing it for us..cheers


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    1. Thank you so much :)
      I'm glad you liked it ..

      Cheers

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