What’s that one thing that works wonders when it comes to
finding a suitable match for marriage... actually, arranged marriage? There are
plenty but one thing that tops the list is... no prize for guesses... its
First thing or first impression that is made in arranged
marriages, especially in our country is judged on the basis of how one looks! I
know it's shallow but it is the truth! And the radar is mostly on girls.
Let’s say there’s a girl, Sita, well educated, is a working
professional, well travelled, full of talent, sugar-coatingly sweet, beyond
helpful to others, is a true winner in every field, popular amongst friends, is
bold to take her stand, but... there’s always a but... she’s fat! And by fat, I
mean fat and not healthy! And what surprises everybody around her is that she
isn’t bothered by her body weight... not even an ounce of it!
She is a foodie and loves to eat and she munches almost
everything... unapologetically! She’s been like this since her childhood and
that is how her body has been and she’s accepted the fact that fitting in that
skinny label is not her!
She’s happy the way she is!Broad and Bold!
Except for her parents, or her relatives or her neighbours
or the society!
How will she get married with a body like that? Her parents
are so worried about her! She should join a gym and live on boiled food for a
while! She should go on a strict diet. She should use stairs at work,she
should this... she should that and the rest you know!
Not one person, not a single soul is concerned for her
health! Yes, being overweight is not a good sign. But no one talks about that.
Everyone wants her slim so that she becomes the “perfect marriage material”!
But she doesn’t want that! She wants someone who would look
beyond those chubby cheeks, she wants to be with someone who would make her
laugh and have an ice-cream or a brownie at midnight, she wants to have a guy
in her life that would fall for her soul, the one with whom she can share how
scared she feels when she thinks of her weight, but no one gets that!
Obviously, these things are surreal! Do they even exist?Stop having such expectations from
life! It happens only in books or movies but not in real. So stop fretting over
it and look alive!
A fat boy is acceptable but a fat girl is a total no-no in
our society! What I, don't understand is, when the boy can refuse to marry an
overweight girl, why does the girl has to say a yes to an overweight boy? She
too can go for a perfectly well-built guy and there is no harm in that!
All of this really disturbs me sometimes! If someone is
fat, so? What is everyone’s problem? Maybe they like being this way or they’re
going on some medications or suffering from some disease or they eat too much...
So what? IT IS NOT OUR BUSINESS! And there is so much beyond how a person
looks! Try looking beyond and you’ll discover their power within!
Welcome to my Blog! This A to Z Challenge, season I’m going to give you a ride and take you to all the places untouched! My themethis year is ‘Let’s see the other Side’, where I’ll be sharing about the daily nuances that we’ve been seeing in the same way since 1990’s! (:P) But this time you’re going to ponder over it a bit differently.