Monday, 3 April 2017

B- Beautiful Bride


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Once there lived a handsome boy in the city who was the only son of Mr and Mrs Mehta. The boy came from a rich background and beautiful parents. Soon there was a hunt for a bride for the boy. And not just any bride, but a beautiful bride to suit the family image!

As the boy was getting older every year, the number of suitable girls who would match the family status was going down. And this really worried Mr Mehta! He didn’t have any demands, no dowry, no questions about the qualifications... all they wanted was a beautiful, homely, not-so-ambitious girl... to suit their conservative family needs!

The boy didn’t have much of an opinion. He was happy with what his parents had decided for him.
5 years passed, and still no girl for their handsome son. One was too educated, the other wanted to pursue her career post marriage, one wasn’t fair enough, one had short hair, one was too healthy, the other was too skinny, one had a long nose and the list continued!

Finally, the search was over and they found the perfect match for their son from a small town... tall, fair, timid, beautiful, slim and homely­, the one who would fit in their criteria.

Marriage happened and the girl was welcomed with full pomp and show. It was a big wedding. All the relatives were touting about the beautiful bride. People were literally in awe of her beauty. And this made Mehta’s very happy!

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But things don’t always remain fair and square. As time passed, the family got over with her beauty and started pestering for her not-so-fluent English, her grooming, her dressing sense, etc etc. No doubt, she was the perfect homemaker, perfect daughter-in-law and perfect wife! But this wasn’t enough for the Mehtas!

They wanted her to represent the family in a sophisticated way and she did try as well but failed them every time. They started lecturing her on the way she should carry herself and speak in public. She felt really embarrassed and... ashamed! She failed to fathom because that is how she was and that is what the family liked about her... and now it seems all wrong! What was she doing wrong? She was trying her best but couldn’t make them happy! And hence, she couldn’t be happy either!

Whose fault was it? The girl who was pure as white, and perfect in every aspect one could ask for? Sure she was qualified, but didn’t have much command in English!

So what is the big deal about it? Had the family gone for the English speaking or the too much educated one, they wouldn’t want her to go for a job!

I pity them! And there are so many others like them of which we can’t really do anything! All I feel is blessed for not being married in such a family! But in some corner of my heart, I feel sad as well for that girl, who is best in every way and yet must be going through some esteem issues!

What is your take on it? Do you only go by the external beauty when it comes to marriages? Tell me about it all here!

Cheers
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Welcome to my Blog! This A to Z Challenge season I’m going to give you a ride and take you to all the places untouched! My theme this year is Let’s see the other Side’where I’ll be sharing about the daily nuances that we’ve been seeing in the same way since 1990’s! (:P) But this time you’re going to ponder over it a bit differently.

Stay tuned to find out what's more in store!


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  1. I think arranged marriages can work, if the parents (on both sides) truly love their children and look beyond superficial characteristics to find a truly suitable mate-for-life, never assuming for a moment that they can - or should! - change the person they deem a good fit for their child. Of course it's a sad life for a girl who has to please her in-laws and has a weak husband who won't stand up to them on her behalf.

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    1. Yes! That's the thing. I her husband would be supportive, it wouldn't be such a problem.

      Thanks for dropping by!

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  2. marriage is life long commitment. More than beauty, understanding, the ability to tolerate the other person for life is most important. One can be beautiful outside, yet had a terrible mind.

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    1. Yeah! That's the reason why I don't understand running after beauty than other qualities!

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  3. I really feel for this girl! To have someone try to change you every day must be soul destroying
    Debbie

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    1. Me too! My heart breaks every single time I meet her!

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  4. Looks like the Mehtas want a Utopian vision as a daughter-in-law. Ah society. What can we do to change this, I wonder?

    *B for Beautiful: Shailaja/The Moving Quill*

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    1. I know!!! Being the change, too doesn't matter that much when such people are such high in number!

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  5. Again - the trap of an arranged marriage that doesn't look deep, whose criteria for a match is based on something superficial. And of course, treating a person like a commodity and then finding fault with her - as though you didn't get what you 'paid' for.
    Blame #Lexicon of Leaving

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    1. Well, people have their own notions and it will take a long time to change this scenario!

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  6. One more reason for doing away with arranged marriage!
    I mean how would you pick a partner in that system? What else would you look for?
    Looks, family status, caste, salary (in case of grooms)... what else?
    Surely, you can't actually get to know anything about the person in such a short time!
    Anyway...
    Happy AtoZing!
    Chicky @ www.mysteriouskaddu.com

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    1. That is how it is and will continue to be!

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  7. I don't understand how people could choose a bride/groom based on appearance as the No1 requirement. It's sad to think that it happens in arranged marriages too.
    Leanne | cresting the hill

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    1. Yes! Sadly, that's the reality!

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  8. I have seen people like Mehta's up close. When they were searching for a groom for my bestfriend​, one guy rejected her saying she is well qualified. He wanted someone who was just 10th pass and who didn't have an opinion of her own!!

    Brother

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    1. Someone want's something, the others want something else! And finally when they get what they want in life, they're not happy with it!

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  9. This is a sad situation in few Indian Families.Nice that you are bringing this out

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    1. Glad to know that! Look forward to see you around!

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  10. I feel you cannot change the basic character of a person, The people spoken of here are typical Indian In Laws who try to impoverish everything on a bride and corner her at every instance. Personal freedom and space is important in a family
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    1. Space?! That's the word they hardly understand!

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  11. It's sad. I'm blessed to have a family that supports. But that is not the case with many. Each person should consciously change their mindset!
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    1. Me too! But that's the truth! If it was so easy!

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  12. Feel sad for the poor girl who has to meet some high expectations. Of course, the Mehtas could have made it easier for her by being supportive and empathetic rather than stabbing her confidence and esteem.

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    1. If only, the Mehtas had so much of maturity!

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  13. Poor girl. I can't imagine that people have this mentality in this day and age.
    Suzy at Someday Somewhere - Letter B

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  14. People in our society have such double standards. They want everything in their daughter-in-law but fail to acknowledge their own shortcomings. You raised an interesting topic here.

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    1. O such a profound thing you've said! They're ready to pinpoint the smallest of mistakes but won't say a single word for thousands of things she does!

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  15. Totally agree Geets, this society so badly needs to understand that you just can't have everything. Decide what you want and them marry your handsome and rich son.
    My everyday's banters in my tin(y)sel town

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    1. Glad the post could resonate with you, sweetie!

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  16. Marriage is hard and takes work -- whether it starts in an arrangement between families, or between individuals. Like you, I'm sad for the woman who gets stuck in a marriage where her partner doesn't understand or respect her, and her in-laws are cruel. This was a very thought provoking post. Thank you.

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  17. Unfortunately Geets a majority of the marriages in small towns and villages where the majority of India resides are arranged considering external factors and I have seen the brides struggling , somehow managing or even perishing. Its such a sad state, wish things start changing for the good. It's incredible buddy that you are bringing up such tales, I did the same last A to Z.

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    1. Yah! I remember reading you last year :) Happy to know you loved reading my post, Roma :)

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  18. The problem with a lot of arranged marriages is that it's based on superficial things. One of my uncles wanted a 'fair-skinned' wife and he got her --- she is extreeeeemly white but their relationship is crap even though they are together. It's not the superficial things that matter.

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    1. That's the truth which no one wants to count on! Everyone wants to run after the beauty!

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  19. Tell me honestly would you choose something ugly for yourself? While beauty is not the only criterion for choosing a bride, it definitely helps if you look good. For that matter an ugly guy is an equal put off even if he had a million other ( read MONEY ) attributes

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    1. It's not just about choosing a beautiful girl.. it's about being happy and contented. People are never contented with what they have!

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  20. Poor girl! I pity people who go about 'finding' girls suited to their needs..like you said, if she's educated its a problem, if she not, its a problem, if she's white, dark, outgoing, shy, likes to socialise, likes staying indoors, no matter what she does, its a problem...It's never about her, always them.

    Shubhangi @ The Little Princess

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    1. That makes so much sense, Shubhangi!
      Thanks for throwing light on it!

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  21. Thats the irony of it all! People want everything and are never satisfied with what they have. Dont know when our society will change.

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    1. I think I'll keep waiting and die but that kind of change that we expect won't be there!

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  22. I feel so bad for the girl. Marriage is so much more than just just rituals and finding the right person. Relationships need work and I wonder the couple even know what that means.

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    1. If only people would understand this and take unconditional effort towards their marriage!

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  23. This is so typically Indian! Though most Indians will deny being so. However the son maybe, but everyone wants a 'beautiful' bahu. So glad you're bringing these topics, which have been brushed under the carpet till now, by writing about them so well and in such an unbiased manner. Looking forward to more posts, GG!

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    1. Thank you so much, M! For filling so much positivity!

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  24. In traditional cultures yes too much premium on physical premium for girls very unfair so to say.
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    1. Yes! And it happens all the time!

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  25. There has always been too many expectations on Women...and I loved the way you brought this into light through this post of yours....Well written :)

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    1. Thank you! Look to see you around.

      I love the name of your blog!

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  26. That's the orthodox mentality that still prevails in ur society, why can't we accept her with open her, instead of changing her personality
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    1. I don't know when will we all see that day when we'll be free by it!

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  27. Some people are never happy with anything! The fault is always found with a girl. I loved the message that you are trying to convey here. It is time that became a progressive society

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  28. Unless the husband stands by her and boosts her morale, its a bad state to be in honestly. They knew her pros and cons going in... after all, it is a matter of a language, not something that can be hidden. To mock her on the cons after she isstuck with them is bad culture, really

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    1. And yet we can do nothing about it! :(

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  29. Another wonderfully thoughtful post on the Indian mentality! Loving this series a lot G
    Its so sad when something like this happens; seen my sistes and friends go through it countless number of times.

    Theme: Peregrination Chronicles (travel)
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    1. Thank you so much Shalini! And I was having so many second thoughts about starting it! You always pat my back! Lots of love to you!

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  30. It's like, people want the cake, the frosting, the chocolate, everything! I mean, the parents should have sorted out their priorities before hunting for a girl. Why crib later on?

    There are so many ways of looking at this situation! It surely fits your theme of looking at the other side :)

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  31. It's like what you mentioned in your previous post. When it comes to arranged marriage, people are only concerned about the looks. Most of the times, it backfires. You know nothing about the person. You're going to a whole new household. In this case, she didn't speak English well and they found it to be a fault. There are many small things like this, and how much will the girl give in to and compromise. It's her life too, that she's now lost.
    Ugh, society sucks!

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    1. Yeah! Hell of things which don't even matter in the long run, are given so much importance and then it creates a lot of chaos in their lives! At the end of the day, people are never satisfied with what they have! They're ready to find fault even if they get near perfection!

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  32. How sad that this couple is subject to so much scrutiny! There is no such thing as the perfect mate and I would hope love is a factor in there, somewhere. Outward appearances aren't nearly as important as inner beauty.

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  33. Terrible for the girl and eventually could ruin the marriage with their interfering.

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  34. That's so sad, that's why saying no to conditioning and conformity is important
    Tina

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