Saturday, 8 April 2017

G- Grow Up


Print

You know how much there is pressure in our society for boys to earn well and be a responsible son. Sure, times have changed a lot and girls are equally working today. But the pressure to work on a girl is nowhere close to how it is with boys. With girls, the pressure is more about getting married, doesn’t matter how many zeroes you have in your paycheck!

But what one can one do if he’s not able to do anything it all? Done with school- check, done with graduation-check, done with PG-check, now started working? Still a question mark!

With the pressure to do more and more, sometimes the boys too tend to break down and no matter how much they try; they’re not able to do anything. And by anything, I literally mean anything.
All his friends are working and he isn’t. Something triggers in his mind but he doesn’t realize. Father is asking him to do a course so that he can help with his business and he’s not interested. Father is asking him if he wants to study further, still nothing, the mother tries to find out what’s going on but nothing fruitful comes out! The result, the child/boy stops going out with friends, family, for movies and does nothing!

Parents are angry and worried at the same time. The society keeps on asking, what your son is doing, where is he working, is he done with his education, what kind of work is he interested in and on and on and on. Actually, the endless questions that society throws at people are what worry the family beyond anything else!

Maybe the boy is suffering from depression. But who will identify that? And then visiting a psychiatrist is still considered a taboo! What if anyone finds out? Everyone will think their son has gone mad and is getting treated! And in the midst of it, it the boy who is suffering every day of his life. Having no one by his side, no one who could understand the turmoil he is going through, not a single soul to talk his woes! Everybody just wants him to grow up, take up the responsibilities and start behaving like an adult! Nobody would let him be, and make him succumb to the norms that society has created! Nobody would be ready to accept the fact that an adult man is sitting in the house, doing nothing!

Source

When will we as a society come out of it? When will we accept everyone around us and stop thinking about what others will think? When will we fight monsters like depression if we ourselves consider it something bad?

So many people are trying to change things around by being more open about it, by asking them to seek help, that there is no harm in getting it treated by a professional, that there so many NGO’s trying to fight for it, that the stigma that you think is attached is only in your head and nowhere else!

As much as we try, it will take a lot of years to clean up this air in the society, I feel!

And yes, we shouldn’t be so hard on boys or men in our society!


Cheers
--------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------
Welcome to my Blog! I’m so happy to have you here! This A to Z Challenge, I’m going to give you a ride and take you to all the places untouched! My theme this year is Let’s see the other Side’where I’ll be sharing about the daily nuances that we’ve been seeing in the same way since 1990’s! (:P) But this time you’re going to ponder over it a bit differently.

I'd love to hear your thoughts!                                      

32 Discussion

  1. Very well said Geetika. So much pressure on young adults. we should learn to back off and let them live life the way they want to. Eventually they will find their wings.

    Suzy at Someday Somewhere - Great minds

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. yes! We just need some patience here and things will fall in place!

      Cheers

      Delete
  2. This pressure of society appeasement is what stops all of us from living our lives. On one hand we say nothing is in our control and on the other we persecute people for not doing something....

    Theme: Peregrination Chronicles (travel)
    G is for Grape Stomping in Bangalore #atozchallenge

    ReplyDelete
  3. Another really valid topic you brought up love and you know the cause of that boy's depression is the same society who pricks him several times a day. Heart-breaking.

    ReplyDelete
  4. It's terrible how we succumb to the pressures of society and cause so much hurt and grievance to ourselves and our loved ones.

    Shubhangi @ The Little Princess

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. Simply in the name of going with the flow of the society!

      Cheers

      Delete
  5. We have strange practices in our society. Comparing people is one of them. Why dont we understand that there are all kinds of people – some who get successful early in life and some get success later. Why do we measure everyone with the same yardstick?

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. Comparing children and people has ruined more than anything else in the world!

      Cheers

      Delete
  6. It all comes to equality. If we were living in an equal society then there won't be an expectation on girls to be homely and guys to be all manly and responsible.

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. Yeah! And that is what is absent in our society or globally as well!

      Cheers

      Delete
  7. You said it so well and totally spot on. The men face a lot of pressure but not much of it is spoken. It is considered normal. My brother doesn't want to get married. He is little over 30, busy with his life and enjoys his work. Still, the society is interested in when is he getting married. Can you believe people ask me too? Gosh!

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. I totally believe that! People have all the time in the world to know about what is going on in others lives!

      Cheers

      Delete
  8. The thing I noticed in India is that the pressure is to be able to please everyone. You have to be a certain way to be acceptable to society whether you are male or female. While the pressure is more on women, men too face pressures.

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. Yeah! That is true. It's rare to see people doing things for themselves rather than anyone else in the world!

      Cheers

      Delete
  9. I have a major issue with how we as a society and family refuse to get help even if we realize that the person is depressed. We force them to bury their anguish and feelings inside and put on a smile for the world. So many lives have been lost to this enforced image for society :(

    Godyears.net

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. My heart goes out to all the people who suffer from a situation like this!

      Cheers

      Delete
  10. The irony is that Indian parents "want" their kids to grow up, but their child is ready to grow up and make his/her own decisions in life, they pressurize them to conform to their demands and wishes, which, in turn, are only fueled by the society. Log kya kahenge!
    Happy AtoZing!
    Chicky @ www.mysteriouskaddu.com

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. Log kya kahenge has destroyed many lives than anything else in the world!

      Cheers

      Delete
  11. True! Depression comes in soft steps and is undetected . We need to be careful

    ReplyDelete
  12. You that is what that needs to change- the thing about what your supposed to be doing just because one is a girl or a boy! And yes Depression is something that everyone needs to be aware of. Anyone can be depressed!
    Liked the message in this post.

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. Thanks a ton, Reena! Happy to know that :)

      Cheers

      Delete
  13. These things - what one is supposed to do because of their gender, are something that definitely needs to be eliminated from the minds of people. Everyone should get to lead life their own way instead of what society thinks as normal behaviour!

    Great Indian Sale

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. If only, people were this considerate!

      Cheers

      Delete
  14. Yes, men do have it hard for them and their struggles are often underrated. They really don't have much choice, do they? You've brought out a sensitive topic worth pondering on.

    ReplyDelete
  15. It frustrates me how mental health issues are still seen as taboo. Consequently, issues get left untreated and become worse. And there is still so much pressure on everyone to conform to the "social norm" - why can't we all just live how we choose to and let everyone else do the same!
    Debbie

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. And it will take an era to change the mindset!

      Cheers

      Delete
  16. We are always asked to hush up things like depression. It's a vicious cycle; parents put pressure on their kids to do things like get a job, get married, instead of letting us take our own time. In turn we get depressed, and lack the motivation to even try.

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. That's the protocol in our society, I feel!

      Delete

Thanks for dropping by :)

Select to parse the code (not required if code is already parsed):

Related Posts Plugin for WordPress, Blogger...

Connect @ Facebook

About Me

© Geetika Gupta. Powered by Blogger.

All Time Favorites

Like it? Subscribe it

Footsteps

Featured post

R- Rogue

It was my last semester in college. Finally, completing the fashion designing course was like a dream come true. I remember the day four y...

Follow on G+

See what they're Talking

Labels

#AtoZChallenge (55) Happiness (52) Feelings and Emotions (35) Love (34) Fun (33) Poetry (33) YeahWrite (31) 101 words (30) AtoZChallenge (29) Haiku (28) A to Z Challenge 2016 (27) Blogchatter (27) NoMo (27) Expressions (25) Life (24) Musings (22) Dreams (21) #WriteTribe (20) Fiction (20) Random (19) #MondayMusings (18) Hope (18) Family (17) Thoughts (17) HonestPost (16) Positivity (16) Relationship (15) Society (15) Struggle (15) Writing (15) Cherish (14) Reflections (14) Contentment (13) Friendship (13) Creativity and Inspiration (12) Half Marathon (12) Blogadda (11) Sad (11) Magpie Tales (10) Playful (10) woman (10) Passion (9) Poster (9) Travel (9) Friday Reflections (8) Gratitude Circle (8) Microblog Mondays (8) Love for Myself (7) MicroFiction (7) Self-doubt (7) Students (7) Wordy Wednesday (7) Work (7) Connection (6) Conservatism (6) Class (5) Courage (5) Parenting (5) Reality (5) Women Empowerment (5) Birthdays (4) Dating (4) Exciting (4) Social cause (4) Togetheness (4) WOW (4) my take (4) #100 words onSaturday (3) Award (3) Betrayal (3) Disconnected (3) Food (3) Friday Fictioneers (3) Gift (3) Hurt (3) Inspiration (3) Karma (3) Published (3) Routine (3) Tears (3) recognition (3) 42 words (2) Coffee (2) Dog's love (2) Fear (2) Feminism (2) Guilty (2) Humour (2) Kiss (2) New Years (2) Silence (2) Surprise (2) Wordless Wednesday (2) Writer's Ezine (2) Book Review (1) Farewell (1) IndiBlogger (1) Resolutions (1) Revenge (1) Sunday Stealing (1) Visual Verse (1) Womensweb (1)

AddToAny