Wednesday, 12 April 2017

J- Judgemental


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A couple of days back, I went for an event in the distant family. It was a ceremony conducted to thank God for the new boy their family had been blessed with. Everyone looked happy. So many happy faces and such joy around never fail to lighten up my spirit. But the thing is it didn’t last for a long time.

I met a lot of people with whom I generally don’t get to meet much. But there was someone at the ceremony that everyone was discussing, and I was intrigued to find out whom.

It was a girl in a dress.

It wasn’t just the dress, it was the tight fitted dress and the girl wasn’t... umm... slim let’s say. Well, that’s not it. She had short hair, all colored in golden, loud makeup and the rings on in her hands were more than her fingers, she had her nose, chin and brows pierced and had a huge tattoo on her arm and on the lower neck... you got the picture? Now did you get why she caught everyone’s attention?

So when you know why there was so much attention, you would obviously know the number of judgments that followed! Conversations like, who is she? Who are her parents? Don’t they say anything to her? I’m sure she’s way too forward! And I’m sure she must be on drugs! Such girls are the ones who’re spoiling our culture and the entire generation! And let me not get started with her character!...

While all the aunties gave her a smug look, all the uncles were having a good time watching her ass! 
They loved having such sights at events... at least there was something stored in for them in the holy ceremony!

Apparently, I knew that girl personally. And she wasn’t a bit these women were talking about! Such a light hearted person who never forgets to carry her radiant smile wherever she goes! She knows what people talk about her but she doesn’t care. She knows they will talk anyway and that’s why she chose to live the way she likes.

But the sad thing is, no one knows that she lost her mom last month! And she is battling a war inside her! No one knows the number of tears she sheds in a day and that’s the reason why she wears so much of makeup.

Her mom always taught her to live on her own terms, to do what she liked no matter what the world says or what the society demands, to dress up because this is something that she got from her mom, to look her best no matter where she is heading and every time she pulled the perfect eyeliner, no one would feel as happy as her mom, they were more like friends! And one fine day, she lost her... to 
cancer!

During her last days, one thing she made her girl promise was to never look sad when out of the house, to always leave the house as if she’s going to walk on a ramp, to never let any power in the world stop her from decorating herself, because that’s what she loved doing!

And that’s what she did! It raised a lot of eyebrows everywhere she went but in the end, it made her mom smile and that is what mattered to her!

Cheers
----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------This A to Z Challengeseason I’m going to give you a ride and take you to all the places untouched! My theme this year is Let’s see the other Side’where I’ll be sharing about the daily nuances that we’ve been seeing in the same way since 1990’s! (:P) But this time you’re going to ponder over it a bit differently.

Stay tuned to find out what's more in store!

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  1. to hell with these aunties and uncles - live life in your terms - love the girl and its unfortunate she had to lose her mom!

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    1. Yes. That was really unfortunate! But at least she is living on her own terms!

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  2. If she was not carrying that look the world would have judged her for some other reason.. I am glad she followed her heart and her Mother's advice. Her happiness is all that matters.

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    1. That is so true, Roma. People need something or the other to ridicule people around them!

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  3. She should continue to live life on her terms and seldom care what the world says..

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    1. And she is doing this exact same thing!

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  4. If it weren't the clothes and piercings, they would've found something else to bitch about. People who live by their own rules are exactly what we need to counter this small-mindedness of some people. Live and let live, you know! Poor thing, lost her mom, but even if she hadn't, no one has the right to judge someone else.

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    1. Story of our society, I feel. Everyone has to comment on everyone, without actually finding anything faulty.

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  5. People who talk about others have nothing worth talking about. It is as simple as that.

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    1. Yes. It is really that simple!

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  6. Her mother did ensure that the girl lives with her head held high. People don't enjoy seeing others happy, especially if they know that the girl has something to be unhappy about. I'm glad the girl heeded to her mum's advice.

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    1. Yes. That is one sane thing she is doing with her life!

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  7. You've conjured up the exact picture of what happens at such events where everyone is holier than thou, enjoying the fact that they have someone to talk about, forgetting that this is a human being with feelings.
    Justify #Lexicon of Leaving

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    1. Sadly, that's the truth that prevails around us!

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  8. Oh what bravery!!! I love her spirit and salute her for it! Thanks for sharing this Geets

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  9. That's horrible. I don;t know why people like to put their nose in other people's business. I am about to be 30, happily married for 4 years and wherever I go, people ask me why I don;t have a baby. Oh, Come on! My life! My way! My rules!
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  10. Is she is happy.... then that's it!

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  11. Though we have our own flaws and weaknesses, but we still go on and judge others. The things is that we we judge others, we do not define them, we are defining ourselves!!

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    1. I feel the exact same thing. What we speak about others, tells us more about the person narrating rather than the one mentioned!

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  12. How true. We always pass judgement so quickly . Good for your brave friend though... It's hard to live life on your terms.

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  13. It's so important to be our authentic true selves isn't it? People will judge us regardless, and you can never please everyone, so maybe it's best to please yourself and the people you love.
    Leanne | cresting the hill

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    1. Yes! Being true to oneself is more important than anything else in the world!

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  14. So true, we judge others without realizing that there are a million untold stories there.
    Jealousy

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    1. And always jump to conclusions without giving a second thought!

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  15. Shame on the oogling uncles and motor mouth aunts. We never know who is going through what, how can we be judgmental?

    Shubhangi @ The Little Princess

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    1. Yet we are! All of us at some point!

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  16. These uncles and aunts are everywhere to judge you and it's up to.us to just ignore them and do what makes us happy. I am loving your posts Geet :)

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  17. This felt sad because I know this is still the reality in 2017. I can remember seeing ads on this concept back in 2000 ... 17 years and we havent changed a bit even as an entire generation has moved on.

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    1. That's because the same thing has been passed to their generations and it still continues! When will we put an end to it?

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  18. I have a couple of such "aunties" here as well. They obviously have nothing better to do, right. Kudos to that girl! Just a month after her mom died? I avoided going to such parties for over a year after I lost my mom! She is quite brave! Good you chose to write about this today.
    Happy AtoZing!
    Chicky @ www.mysteriouskaddu.com

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    1. Yes, she is brave and knows what to do with her life, quite clearly!

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  19. Family get together are something where relatives gossip and judge about others...Better ignore these people and live life on your own terms

    Launching SIM Organics This April

    *Menaka Bharathi *

    *SimpleIndianMom*
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    1. That's the only way people are left with, I feel!

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  20. People will always find a reason to say one thing r the other. It was not about the dress, makeup or the piercings. Glad she followed her own voice. Exactly what we all should do.

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  21. I'm glad that you have highlighted what men go through. There is so much dialogue about women's identities but men are still judged for the money they make. It's high time we gave men also the freedom to be who they want to be.

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  22. You have an awesome theme going on here, Geetika! Every story is a gem!! :)

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