Saturday, 15 April 2017
When you’re on your own, doesn’t matter if you’re a boy or a girl, you do a lot of things in life. Some are selfless and some are selfish which means that you’re accountable only to yourself and you don’t need to answer anyone. You live the way you want, eat, sleep, go out or take random trips without being dependent on anyone. But once you get married, things change.
You need to think of your partner as well before making a big decision and involve them as well, which is totally fine.
But when you have kids, things turn upside down for both of you.
Now here is something, that mostly happens or what is generally done. Of course, there are exceptions to it.
So you do things the way you’ve seen them being done. If you’ve had your first baby as a girl, you don’t feel guilty about getting a test done for the second child and wish for it to be a boy. Not to mention, I doubt if anyone would go to see if their second child is daughter because they already have a son!
And now you’re the mother. And being the mother gives you every right to your child for its well-being. You will do everything possible if it’s good for the child.
It is all about that moment, which barely lasts a second but your mind comes across those thousands of thoughts.
You become unapologetically selfish for your family, you have your own reasons to do things and you don’t feel guilty about any of it! There is not an iota of regret in you! Why? Because those protective instincts make you do so and you did what you had to do for your child, even if it’s wrong!
And let’s assume you stay in a joint family, in a house loaded with people and children as many as they could make a cricket team altogether, you do a lot of things for your child to push him ahead, or let the other ones stay behind!
Be it keeping aside food or his favourite snack because he’s not around or grabbing the opportunity for your child before anyone else in the house, being prompt and making sure that your child wouldn’t miss anything, giving in to the whims and fancies of your child every single time, covering up their mistakes in front of the father or any other elder, hiding the heinous crimes (if ever they did) they commit, you play games as well and you do it unabashedly! Because you did what you had to do without caring about its consequences.
A lot of people do that. I don’t know what is right or wrong. All I know is that it exists and this is all being human, I feel. Instances like going for an ultrasound to see if it’s a boy disturb me big time. But that’s what many (not all) women do. Again unapologetically!